Why I love femininity – and how YOU can embrace it
Femininity, as defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is a noun that means “the quality or nature of the female sex : the quality, state, or degree of being feminine or womanly.”
But let’s face it. Femininity is defined by each and every soul that identifies as feminine.
Femininity to one person could be defined by the way they dress and their physical appearance. Femininity to another person might be defined by their actions, thoughts, and desires. To some it may be both or neither.
Why I love femininity – as a concept and existing as feminine…
As someone who identifies as a woman, femininity to me represents all of the lovely (and not so lovely) things about womanhood.
My silly multi-step skincare routine during which I use a pretty, floral headband to hold my hair back symbolizes my femininity.
The pastel colors I surround myself with symbolize my femininity. The books I love symbolize my femininity.
My femininity is beauty, grace, and it radiates goddess energy.
But, as I said before, it can mean anything to anyone! You choose your definition and your expression.
Alright, now it’s time to focus on YOU!
How to embrace YOUR femininity…
Affirmations
When you wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror. I mean, really look. Tell yourself all the good things you can think of. Say things like:
“I am beautiful, capable, and strong.”
“I can do anything I put my mind to.”
“Today is my day and it’s going to be great.”
Shift the topics as you need to. For example, if you’re feeling insecure, focus on saying good things about your looks. If you’re feeling broke, manifest some money coming your way.
If you forget to say them in the morning, that’s okay! You’re not in trouble (I would never tattle on you…). Say it when you’re at your desk at work, when you’re eating dinner, or when you’re chilling with your snuggly pet.
Wear clothes you LOVE, no matter what others may think
I’ve been insecure with my size for the last few years and that insecurity has pushed me into a shell. I only wear things that cover most of me, especially when I’m with others.
If this is you, let’s make a goal to slowly climb out of those stubborn shells and use those affirmations we’re saying to get ourselves pumped to wear what we love.
Next time we go clothes shopping or thrifting, let’s pick something that we might not otherwise wear and wear it with PRIDE! You are so beautiful and that clothing item that you’ve been scared of for so long is making you SHINE!
Take care of yo’ self
Take care of you! Set some time aside for things like skincare, meditation, exercise of your choice (whether that’s walking, yoga, weight lifting – doesn’t need to be intense), and anything else that makes you feel good.
Curl up with a book on a Saturday night when all of your friends are out. It’s okay, you’ll be there next week for your bestie’s birthday. They can wait.
Self care = self love.
Be you FOR YOU, not for others
For a large majority of my high school and early college years, I focused entirely on making sure I was attracting attention from others (typically from guys). Icky.
Focusing on being authentic to who you are and existing in that without the expectation that you have to impress someone is SO good for you.
You don’t need their attention. You are AMAZING no matter what you wear, how “weird” you act in public, or whether you have that one TikTok dress that tons of other girls have.